Ephesians

Ephesians 6:4

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Monday, 7 November 2016

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4

Paul’s words now are directed to the head of the household, the father. The word is patér and it is generally used of a father, elder, ancestor, or senior. In Hebrews 11:23, a plural form of this word is used to speak of the parents of Moses. It is certainly correctly translated as “fathers” here as they are considered the head of their respective houses, as has already been established. However, if a house is lacking a father, for whatever reason, the word is broad enough to speak of the one who is in charge of it. The responsibility does not change if the actual father is not in the picture.

The father, being the head of the house, is told, “do not provoke your children to wrath.” The word “provoke” is parorgízō. It comes from two words, pará, which means “from close-beside,” and orgízō, which means to “become angry.” Combined, they give the sense of rousing someone to anger “in a way that “really pushes someone’s buttons” (HELPS Word Studies). The father is not to act in this manner and thus bring their child to a state of wrath.

Instead, Paul offers sound advice which is all too much lacking in today’s world. He says that fathers are instead to “bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” There are two separate ideas here. The first is “training,” or nurture. This is whatever care and handling is necessary for the child to grow into a responsible person. The word is paideia, and it actually carries with it a stern aspect. It means, “discipline; training and education of children, hence: instruction; chastisement, correction” (HELPS Word Studies).

This then includes the idea of correction and punishment. The book of Proverbs gives several examples of what this word certainly includes. Two are –

“He who spares his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.” Proverbs 13:24

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“Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.” Proverbs 23:13, 14

The same word is used in Hebrews 12 to explain our relationship with the Lord, just as a son is dealt with by his own father. The word is translated as “chastening” there –

“If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? 8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?” Hebrews 12:7-9

And as a confirmation of this, a variant of the word is used by Jesus concerning our relationship with Him. Again, it is translated as “chasten” –

“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten.” Revelation 3:19

The second word that Paul uses, translated as “admonition,” is nouthesía. It means “properly, setting (placing) the mind through God-inspired warning” (HELPS Word Studies).

We are to improve the minds of our children through teaching them to reason things out so that they will come to godly solutions in their thought process. When Paul says, “admonition of the Lord,” that is exactly what he means. We are to speak of, explain, and correct faulty notions of the Person and work of Jesus Christ.

In doing these things, we will have children who also grow up in the way of the Lord, and who are set to continue this same training in their own children in the future.

Life application: It is never too late to begin the process described in these verses today. Although it is right that the process begin as early as possible, many do not come to Christ until later in life. From the moment this happens though, it is the responsibility of the parent to share in the knowledge of the Lord in order for the child to know and understand what has been instilled in the parent.

Gracious Heavenly Father, Your word asks us to instruct our children in “the training and admonition of the Lord.” This includes chastening them in order to bring them in line with Your will, just as You also do for us. Help us not to be weak in our convictions, nor in our stand against wrong-doing. The people of the world today seem to find it wrong to discipline children, but they can shut up and sit down. Your word is our guide, a guide which leads to salvation. Their weak-willed attitude will only lead to condemnation. And we love our children far too much to follow the way of this world. Amen.

 

Ephesians 6:3

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Sunday, 6 November 2016

“that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” Ephesians 6:3

The words here are reflective of the promise made in the Ten Commandments to Israel, both in Exodus 20:12 and Deuteronomy 5:16. There is a portion he omits from his citation though. In the Ten Commandments, it says, “that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.”

The people of Israel were promised an inheritance in the land of Canaan. In disobedience to the Lord, they would be exiled from that land. For them, to be exiled was a form of punishment. And so, a long life would be one of enduring that punishment. In other words, the true prosperity of Israel is tied into the land of Canaan, not merely to a long life. There was no need for this statement to be included by Paul when addressing the Gentiles. There is no earthly inheritance which comes through faith in Christ.

Therefore, this is a general blessing which is pronounced upon any and all – Jew or Gentile – who come to Christ. Things can be expected to go well with us, and we can generally anticipate a long and fruitful life on the earth, when we honor our parents. As this is a general promise, it cannot be expected in all instances. Like the proverbs of Solomon, it is a broad guideline that we can anticipate, not a blanket guarantee. In honoring one’s parents, things can normally be expected to go well for us.

Life application: If you want things to go well with you, following the precepts laid out in the Bible is a good way for that to come about. In not following them, you will pierce yourself with many thorns, but in following them, you can generally expect things to turn out in a positive manner.

Lord God, help us to be parents which are responsive to the needs of our children, and also help us to be responsive to the needs our own parents. The family has been established for care, protection, love, and edification. These, and so many other wonderful benefits, come when we live in accord with Your word concerning family matters. And so help us in this Lord. Surely You are pleased when we live lives which have care and respect for those who are so close to us in the family. Amen.

 

Ephesians 6:2

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Saturday, 5 November 2016

“Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise:  Ephesians 6:2

Verse 1 said, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” Now, in support of his note that “this is right,” he cites the fifth of the Ten Commandments. In this, he notes that a special blessing is affixed to this command by saying, “which is the first commandment with a promise.” It is not only the first, it is actually the only commandment of the Ten Commandments with a promise affixed to it.

Some argue that the words of the second commandment also bear a promise –

“For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, 6 but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”

This is not a promise. Rather, it is a general declaration of how the Lord works. It is a part of His nature which is being explained in those words. The promise of the fifth commandment is truly a promise, being affixed to show the importance of the command to those who will hear and heed. The promise itself is given in the coming verse.

Life application: The Bible lays great stress on the honoring of parents, and for good reason. If one is unwilling to honor their earthly father and mother, then a disrespect towards God is an obvious result of this attitude of the heart. Our heavenly Father is infinitely worthy of honor. Let us endeavor to honor Him by honoring our earthly parents in obedience to His word.

Parents! Why Lord do they ask us to follow so many rules? Heavenly Father, You have given us our parents to be examples to us of how to live properly. They are people too and are prone to err, but You have asked us to honor them as our parents. Help us to do this, and in turn we will be honoring of You who have given us this command. And Lord, help those of us who are parents to be godly examples of Your will for our own children. Help us to raise our children in a way with which You will be pleased. Amen.

 

 

Ephesians 6:1

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Friday, 4 November 2016

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Ephesians 6:1

Chapter 6 begins with a movement from the marital relationship to that of the responsibilities of and for children. Paul addresses the teknon, or children, directly. The word indicates a child, but in its fuller sense, it figuratively indicates “anyone living in full dependence on the heavenly Father, i.e. fully (willingly) relying upon the Lord in glad submission. This prompts God to transform them into His likeness” (HELPS Word Studies).

The word in this case is following the family unit of children within a household. In such a case, the children are instructed to, “…obey your parents in the Lord.” The words “in the Lord” are given to qualify the word “obey.” In other words, the assumption is that Paul is writing to children who are of the household of faith.

His words do not exclude the fact that all children should so obey their parents, but not all children will receive the words of Paul. Those who do not, still have God’s general revelation of Himself which is instilled in them concerning family hierarchies. However, as is the case outside of God’s special revelation of Himself to His people, these things often become skewed, or even outright rejected.

However, to avoid that happening within the faith, Paul explicitly directs the children who are “in the Lord” to obey their parents. If they are in the Lord, this is the expectation of the Lord, and they are to adhere to it. As Paul next notes, “…for this is right.” Even without this word of special revelation (meaning the apostolic authority of Paul’s writing), it is understood throughout races, cultures, and societies that this is the normal and proper situation in the family unit. How much more so then when it is an expectation of the Lord who has so structured the family unit!

Life application: The parents are to be the leaders in the family. The children are to obey the parents. How unfortunate it is that modern culture has turned this upside down in movies and TV shows. The children tell the parents what they will do and the parents back down as if the decision by the child is fixed. We must be careful to reject such displays and not get our family decisions caught up in this perverse role-setting.

Heavenly Father, Your word outlines the roles of the family unit and it shows us what is right and proper in the conduct of our family life. Children are admonished to obey their parents because this is the natural and right order of how things should be done. Help us to reject the modern roles displayed on TV and in the movies which upturn this God-ordained hierarchy. May our family decisions be in accord with Your word as the parents lead and direct the family in godliness. Amen.

 

Ephesians 5:33

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Thursday, 3 November 2016

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33

This last verse of the chapter begins with “Nevertheless.” It is an indication that Paul is returning to the practical aspects of the husband/wife relationship. He has been speaking of the mystical union of Christ and the church, of which the husband and wife relationship is a pattern. In order to “get back to the basics” from this high and lofty analogy, he brings it back down to a practical level with this word.

In the human economy of marriage, this final admonition begins with, “let each one of you in particular so love his wife as himself.” This doesn’t mean that a man is to love his wife as much as he loves himself, but he is to love her as if being his own self. This goes back to verse 31 which says that “the two shall become one flesh.” There is to be a love for the wife that maintains this united essence.

Next, Paul says, “and let the wife see that she respect her husband.” The word translated as “respect” here is phobeó. It actually means “to fear.” This is the reverential fear that a person might have towards God. It is used in Matthew 9:8 concerning the fear of the people when Jesus healed a paralytic. It is this type of reverential fear which is referred to. The wife is to give way to her husband in decisions and to submit to his authority with a reverence that is appropriate to his position as the human authority of the household.

Life application: When the admonitions of Paul concerning the husband/wife relationship are ignored or undermined, the family unit will inevitably fail to work properly. Each has been given a place by God, and all must adhere to that placement for the benefit of the family and to the honor of the Lord.

Lord God, Your word makes certain distinctions within the family hierarchy which are expected to be adhered to – the father, the wife, and the children. When they are not, dysfunction and disharmony will be the inevitable result. Help us, as men and women of Your flock, to be obedient to those distinctions and to apply the admonitions of Scripture to our devotion to You, and to our placement within the family structure. Surely with this You will be pleased. Amen.